Madelyn is our 4th daughter. She was another home birth, born in my bed, surrounded by all of her older sisters and Daddy, of course, and my mother.
Madelyn was 8 days late and born from a very unhealthy pregnancy. I wasn't eating enough, wasn't eating very nutritious foods, never got enough exercise and sleep, and up until 2 days before she was born I had been working 50-70 hours a week as a waitress.
Being "late" drove me mentally insane. I wanted her out. I woke up the day she was born, wondering if today would be the day. When contractions began (ever so slowly) I did everything I could think of to sped them up. I wasn't determined to see my beautiful baby. I was determined to end this gigantic, uncomfortable pregnancy that should have ended over a week ago.
Labor was so very hard and painful. I leaned into my husband's lap, tense and crying for hours. The bath wasn't comfortable, standing wasn't comfortable, sitting wasn't comfortable. Transition seemed to last for 4 hours.
Finally, contractions changed. They were coming every 5-10 minutes and I was able to rest a bit before moving from the bathroom to the bedroom and calling in all of the kids. I felt better, so much better and stronger. I didn't rest between contractions, I busied myself with the business of covering the bed with CHUX, explaining to my other kids about birth and making sure everyone else was ready.
When everyone else was ready, I sat on the bed and with the next contraction, I pushed with all of my might. Nothing happened. I didn't push because I was feeling an instinct to push, I pushed because everyone was ready for the baby to be born (especially me).
As each contraction came for the next hour, I pushed with all of my strength. I strained every muscle in my legs and crotch pushing for no reason. Finally, after over an hour of fruitless pushing, my water broke- exploded everywhere, and she slid out without the slightest bit of my effort. All that pointless pushing gave me the only hemorrhoids I have ever had in my life. Recovery was the most painful thing, I was bedridden with muscle pain everywhere.
at this writing, is 4 and the absolute sweetest, slowest-moving child
She flits along, smelling the roses, enjoying each moment, and is never
a hurry for anything except food.
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